Our First Discussion About Gangbangs

It’s not often that I participate in writing prompts or memes, but I’ve been looking for something to help me segue back into expressing my thoughts on a page again. So, I’m taking part in #KinkOfTheWeek for the first time, and I’m a bit excited about it. I know I’m really late to post this, but better now than never.


Do I want a Gangbang? Maybe.

The fantasy of having one has always existed for me. I have thought about it a lot, and especially as I prepared dinner tonight. I’ve never been a participant in any group play except for a single threesome experience when I was 19 that I did not enjoy, nor did we really go about it the right way. Though, I have certainly written smut about it and spent a large number of my adolescent days wishing I could meet a group willing to include me in any kinky activities. But do I want a gangbang? I’m not entirely sure.

The idea of participating in one has always felt like climbing a sheer cliff. Daunting enough to discourage me from trying. While I’m in a fantastic relationship at this stage of my life, no past relationship has ever been safe enough for me to explore my sexuality more openly. I had to spend a lot of time with people who only ever valued me for what I could give them, and manipulated me into keeping it that way. Which made the idea of exploring anything new an impossibility. But for the first time, I’m able to have an open-minded conversation about sex and sexuality with my partner. So, Mrs. Tod and I had a chat about it over dinner.

“Assuming the logistics were not an issue, and all participants are enthusiastically consenting, what would be your expectations?”

It was actually delightful to watch the gears turning in her head as she described the need for boundaries, establishing a safe word with all participants, and needing someone to act as a ‘director’ of the action. I asked her to elaborate, and she explained that she would prefer someone to be in charge of who does what and when. Someone to act as the initiator, while also ensuring that everyone is having fun and that boundaries are being respected.

I was very amenable to the idea, and to the idea of taking that role. First and foremost because in an interaction where there are multiple partners are present, the concern of someone crossing a boundary is ever-present, and I would want to be able to monitor the situation. The more I think about it, in fact, the more I would want this to be a necessity. On the other side of the coin, I also think it would be incredibly sexy to watch her with another partner, or two, or three, watching them giving her all of their attention and affection. Being used in every way she desires them to. Of course, the dominant in me would take great joy in having full control of this interaction, deciding what she will receive, from whom, and when. In every way, my attention is fully on Mrs. Tod and what happens to her.

I was a bit surprised, however, that we differed in who we would prefer to include in a gangbang. Mrs. Tod feels uncomfortable including anyone she is familiar with, so any potential partners would have to be strangers to her. I can understand her feelings, and I would imagine it’s difficult to arrange any gangbang without including at least a few strangers. But I find myself wondering if I might enjoy a gangbang more if there were at least some familiarity with those involved. Even if only accustomed to any potential partners, I feel as though someone I at least have some small amount of trust with would likely be more respectful of boundaries, as well as providing a feeling of comfort when with them.

Curious, I asked Mrs. Tod what, if anything, would be holding her back from making plans to try this. For her, she feels she lacks the experience to engage in an act that’s a really large leap from her current comfort zone, which completely makes sense. Then I surprised her when I revealed I would have performance anxiety, unsure if I would have the stamina or strength to give my attention to multiple partners at once. In the end, if everyone involved is having a good time and being respectful, it’s a possibility.

Whether or not Mrs. Tod and I will ever go through with it remains unknown. But we’re talking about it, and that’s a positive step whether it happens or not.

3 thoughts on “Our First Discussion About Gangbangs

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  1. Oh, I love this post!

    My gangbang experiences have been conducted by me, and I have gone to great lengths to ensure I will be safe with the people I’ve invited. The only man I have deferred to is Sir, and having him in Control of the boundaries made for an entirely different experience as far as my headspace goes. (Organised by me- they were there for my pleasure. By him- they helped me to entertain him)

    I have a suggestion that might satisfy you both? (Feel free to ignore) if your were to invite people you know that she might not. But if she does then perhaps she could wear a blindfold. I’ve enjoyed a blind gangbang and it was incredible. I’m sure you’ll find a way to explore this in the way that is right for you.

    Aa big fan of this kind of play, I shall look forward to your adventures. N

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  2. Everyone thinks about it. Not everyone admits and not everyone decides to take this step, but everyone thinks (dreams). If you started talking about it and didn’t meet a sharp rejection from your partner, then this is a good sign that you are on the right track. And if you are not afraid, you can take the next step towards expanding the boundaries of your sexuality.

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