Category: Dear Charlton

If you have any personal questions you’d like answered, or need some advice, I’m more than happy to help if I can. You can remain anonymous, and your information will not be shared. It is my hope that my background and previous experience can help with any issues you are having in regards to sex, sexuality, writing, or even personal problems. Not all questions need to be published, and if you would prefer I simply send you an answer via email, be sure to specify that in your message. All messages can be sent through the ‘Contact’ page above.

Survival wants to get her work out there.

Dear Charlton,

Though money would be a a nice little reward for a job well done, I am not interested in writing Erotica for a source of income. I simply enjoy writing Erotica because it makes me happy. My questions are as follows:

Is it feasible to write Erotica anonymously (since I do have family)?

If it’s done anonymously, where would I create a blog for it?

Is it allowed on Wordpress, or do you have any ideas on other sites that are more accepting of this subject?

Signed,
Survival

Goddess wants her inner-critic to shut up

Dear Charlton,
I’m a plus size woman with a self esteem problem. I’d like to be more adventurous in bed but somehow I always feel like I’m not enough. I sometimes even feel like I don’t deserve to be sexy or have a healthy sex life ’cause I’m plus size. My man tells me everyday that he loves me and that I’m sexy but it’s hard to shut the voice in my head that says otherwise. Do you have any advice for me?
Thanks a lot.
-Goddess

LMI wants more spontaneity in the bedroom

Dear Charlton,

Nice to talk again. My partner although well meaning, keeps on asking what i want and would like each time we get intimate. As much as this is sweet it can kill my mood alarmingly quick. Especially when i want to be in the heat of the moment and tearing each others clothes off… How can I explain this to him without hurting his feelings?

-LMI

Rosegirl seeks to open a discussion about kink.

Dear Charlton,
I think a lot of non-vanilla types have trouble talking about their preferences with a new dating partner. Usually it stems from a bad experience of scaring someone off early in a relationship. What is the best way to open up a discussion about things like bdsm or inviting a third person to join in?

-Rosegirl