Anyone who’s new to the world of chat hosting is going to get to a point where they need to learn a few tricks to be the best that they can be. The simple fact is that you have to be good at chatting if you expect to make a decent amount of money at it. If you want to be one of the highest earners then you really have to offer your audience something that they can’t get anywhere else. That one thing is always going to be your personality.
Should you find yourself reading this blog post, it should be very clear why. Because there is a stack of unfinished projects cluttering your desk, or filling up your notebooks. Because there are so many of them and some that have been sitting for months without any progress. There's simply so much to do, and chances are, the ideas keep coming faster than you can put them to paper. It is not just authors and bloggers who have this issue, but creatives of all types in all mediums run into this very same problem. An idea is formed one day, so they find the time and headspace to sit down and begin this new project. They get so far and stop to take a break before continuing. However, it's not long before a new idea pops into their head, and all of the sudden, it's all they can think about.
For a few years after my enlistment ended, I felt like I had some understanding of life and what it was supposed to be, but much of it was still a great mystery to me, and no matter where I looked, or who I talked to, there was always something missing or a there would be a huge hole in their logic, or my logic.
I always wondered if there would ever be a time when I would want to write this. A couple reasons for this included: the way I viewed masturbation was, as a male who found pleasure only through his penis, that a solo handjob was going to be about as good as it gets because anything more than that was just the same thing, but with extra steps and a higher cost. Secondly, I didn't think there was anything significant to say about it, or at least nothing that we don't already know about male masturbation. I felt guilty because so many great bloggers and educators are out there right now trying to start a conversation on female pleasure, orgasm, and understanding how the vulva and clitoris work. And you should definitely be listening to them because they're out there giving away free information on how to be a better lover, so why not take it?
If there’s one thing we can always depend on when it comes to the internet is: people like to use it for sex. And why not? It allows us to connect with people all over the world, and even with people who live fairly close to us, but we never knew existed. No longer do we have to make choices like whether you should stay with a significant other you don’t like because you have no better options. And now, we have the option of connecting with someone for casual sex without the preamble. With this comes the age of adult dating sites.
“Friends with benefits” is a name that conjures up mixed emotions in a lot of people. Many are reminded of the Mila Kunis/Justin Timberlake film of the same name. Others have thoughts about other times the mainstream media has portrayed it as unsuccessful, or the people involved become ‘involved’ anyway as a result. Conservative people tend to see relationships that don’t have an inherent emotional investment as something that is immoral and “bad news”. But then again, of course, they do.
Some time ago, I made a rather lengthy post delving into what the swinger lifestyle is like and the very happy couples who have chosen to take it up. I wanted to touch on it once more and explore some of the other aspects behind the lifestyle. If you haven’t read it yet, you should. I spoke of what swinging is and what it isn’t, its portrayal in media, and the fears behind them. Many of those aforementioned fears are mainly based around stigmas, and worries of infidelity or damaged relationships. And depending on the level of trust in one another, those fears may or may not be justified.
It's been quite a long time since I last wrote on the topic of Primal Play. A couple of years ago, I wrote about my findings on what Primal Play is, and my discovery that I am also primal. It would be some time until I would write another post about what it means to be primal, and how primals interact with the rest of us. Since then, I find myself in a position where I feel I've learned a lot more about Primal Play through my personal experience as a primal, learning from other primals, as well as seeing a need for another post delving even further into what Primal Play entails. Several, actually.
The name may not allude to this, but the laundry list is a commonly-made mistake among most first-time writers, whether it be writers of erotica, smut, or other genres. It's an understandably easy mistake to make, but it's still enough to turn off any reader from the get-go. I mentioned this in an earlier post where I explained a few things to help take your writing to the next level, but I'd like to give this one a bit more emphasis.
Do you remember those 'Choose your own adventure' books from the 80's with the elaborate cover art, written by Edward Packard? I remember first finding one in middle school, around 20 years ago now, and thinking how innovative I thought it was. My school's library had dozens of them, and I think I read every single one of them.
I've been thinking over this for a while after a conversation I had with a friend some time ago. I had mentioned how hearing about the personal fantasies of others really helps with creating plots for erotica, at least for me. My friend then mentioned that they had a private list of fantasies and sexual acts they wanted to perform with their partner. I won't go into details, but I remembered the name my friend used for that list: "The Fuck-et list". There's no arguing the clear reference to the Bucket List with Morgan Freeman, and how it relates to one's sexuality.
I remember when reading Stephen King's memoirs, there was some insight he gave, and I'm paraphrasing: "A bad writer can become a good writer. A good writer can become a great writer. But a bad writer cannot become a great writer." In following this, I wrote 9 Tips to get you from Amateur to Less Amateurish which was an outline of writing advice collected from a variety of popular authors. Sometimes, I go back to that article to remind myself of what I'm doing wrong now, and what I should be doing. Now it's time to move onwards and upwards. I've collected some more tips to explain where to go once the quality of your writing is no longer the problem. It's not as many tips as last time, but still just as helpful.